Being your true authentic self
How do you know who you really are ?
For the past four years now, I’ve been seeing a psychologist on a regular basis to explore ‘me’ - when she asked me why I wanted to have sessions with her, my reply was - “I really need to understand me” - I said that I recognised feelings, thoughts and then actions that seemed misaligned with who I really was. Some things were happening in my life at the time where I held feelings & thoughts and then these generated actions that I was not too proud about. Nothing too serious but it felt as though I was two people and the ‘wrong one’ was winning out !
I needed some tools to really understand what I was feeling and doing as a human. Probably for the first time in m life I was feeling uncomfortable with the way I was leading my life - some actions, some words spoken and some feelings that I was feeling made me feel uneasy.
Through a series of sessions over a period of time, my therapist was able to help me understand me and where some of my thoughts & actions were coming from.
It’s nobodies fault - we all go through life picking up ‘scars’ along the way that then direct our feelings, thoughts and actions.
The truth is that the actions are the real issue - having the feelings & thoughts that come into our mind is probably unstoppable - but, understanding where these feelings & thoughts come from helps us understand them and then helps us redirect our actions in ways that are more aligned with our true authentic self.
Liberated Love by
and his wife, is one tool of many, I am using to help me understand me in how I behave in all of my relationships - romantic, family, friends and work colleagues & everyone I meet in my life.Changing habits is hard work but if you really want to change and stop repeating old habits that don’t serve you as your true authentic self, then the hard work has to be done.
Setting intentions, making a list of habits that you want to follow, habits that are no longer serving you and ones that you will work hard at stopping is part of this work.
Understanding yourself and who you really are is deep work and in some cases, painful work but the upside is so worth it. To live a life free of habits that you are not proud of and hold you back from fulfilling your full potential is a goal I want to work at - recognising that this work is life long - we all fail along the way as we learn from old habits and set new intentions and work towards the true authentic you. Failure in this sense is just a stepping stone towards greater understanding - many of us will revert back to an old habit but the important thing is to recognise this and move forward again.
One habit that I am committed to not repeating is ‘people pleasing’ - where you do something or say something that is not really what you think or feel or want to do but you do it to keep the peace ! In the short term only. People pleasing is so toxic - every time you do it, it builds up a layer of resentment in you and it generates the feeling of not being worthy or good enough or just a bit of a fake.
To live a life free and authentic, be honest with yourself and then be honest with everyone in your circle - this is the way towards real freedom, to generate relationships that are true and authentic - and full of love.
Yes please, I’m committed to this work and I have practices that I use on a daily basis to help me understand me which in turn helps me become me.